In the ” old world “, being sexy was about particular-grooming, tight fitting clothes & makeup. Now, everyone knows that being sexy has more to do with a certain je ne sais quoi. Although science has tried to measure what makes a person more pleasing, most of us realize that attractiveness can not be boiled down to algorithms. Real sexiness is in the eye of the beholder.
But if you are finding the ways to be more attractive, you will be happy to know most of it won’t cost you a penny and does not take long at all. Listed below are 40 tips to be more sexy very quickly.
Table of Content
- 1 1. Always Make Eye Contact
- 2 2. Focus on Dynamic Attractiveness
- 3 3. You’ve Got A Brain—Use It!
- 4 4. Humor Counts
- 5 5. Get Your Hair Blown Out
- 6 6. Expose Your Wrists
- 7 7. Take Up Yoga
- 8 8. Test Out Some Sexy Lingerie
- 9 9. Don’t Assume Showing More Is Sexier
- 10 10. Unfollow People Who Make You Insecure
- 11 11. Touch Yourself
- 12 12. Find A Good Tailor
- 13 13. Invest In Chic Specs
- 14 14. Stop Plucking Your Eyebrows
- 15 15. Undo Yourself A Bit
- 16 16. Slow Down
- 17 17. Initiate Sex More
- 18 18. Use Touch
- 19 19. Wear Heels
- 20 20. Challenge Yourself
- 21 21. Don’t Only wear Sweats to Bed
- 22 22. Let Your Natural Scent Do the Work
- 23 23. Use Sexy People to Your Advantage, Rather Than Compare Yourself to Them
- 24 24. Try New Things
- 25 25. Nix Panty Lines
- 26 26. Be Kind
- 27 27. Get A Manicure and Pedicure
- 28 28. Get A Spray Tan
- 29 29. Travel In A Pack
- 30 30. Hone Your Talents
- 31 31. Invest In Yourself
- 32 32. Be Assertive
- 33 33. Play Up Your Best Features
- 34 34. But Don’t Be Obsessed with Your Appearance
- 35 35. Turn on the Lights
- 36 36. Never Wear Things That You Can’t Walk, Eat, Breathe, or Talk In
- 37 37. Put Your Phone Away
- 38 38. Ask the Right Questions
- 39 39. Don’t Be A Snooze-Fest
- 40 40. Screw ALL OF THESE RULES
1. Always Make Eye Contact
And not just with your partner, looking everyone you are interacting with directly in the eye won’t only will improve your own confidence, but it will get people to watch you as confident and in control, which generally translates to sexy.
2. Focus on Dynamic Attractiveness
Sure, physical beauty is really a key component in innate sex-appeal, but dynamic attractiveness involves the expression of our emotions and our underlying personality and can extremely increase your personal charisma. Based on Psychology Today, expressing positive affect smiling, having expressive eyes, employing an upbeat attitude, are all connected with sex appeal.
3. You’ve Got A Brain—Use It!
A sharp, healthy mind could be akin to healthy body when it comes to being sexy. This means occasionally challenging yourself by having challenging conversation, expressing interest-in new things, reading books on new topics, or even just watching a documentary about something you didn’t know. The more you know, the more you’ll be able to speak about in an informed way, this is a defining factor in real sex appeal.
4. Humor Counts
Yeah, we know that razor sharp wit is not something that can be learned, and we’re not all capable of being funny always, but not taking yourself or the world around you too seriously is a key element in being sexy. Additionally, everybody loves a good sense of humor.
5. Get Your Hair Blown Out
The majority of us can certainly attest than when our hair looks bad, we often feel-bad. Turns out, that is not all in our heads, either: Studies have shown women spend around Twenty years of their lives suffering from a bad hair day, which can dramatically affect mood and confidence.
6. Expose Your Wrists
No, not because they are attractive but because the glands in your wrists emit pheromones which can trigger-feelings of attraction in other people.
7. Take Up Yoga
A study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that women who regularly did yoga actually felt sexier. Why? Researchers say it could be because yoga encourages a stronger mind-body connection.
8. Test Out Some Sexy Lingerie
Along the way, lingerie became synonymous with tawdry dare we day porn-in-pieces that look as if they belong on people eagerly waiting for the arrival of the hot young pizza delivery guy. And while that is true in some respects, there’s also quite a lot of very elegantly sexy underpinnings out there that are sexy without being unattractive.
9. Don’t Assume Showing More Is Sexier
You have heard it before: Showing tons of skin doesn’t always means to sexy. Skin-tight-clothes, booty-shorts, insanely low-cut- tops all can make you look less sexy, or like you are trying too hard. Love your body and want to show it off? Great! Do it ways that are really sexy, as opposed to flashy.
10. Unfollow People Who Make You Insecure
Whether it is the one fashion blogger who only posts bikini shots, a particular celebrity, or Victoria’s Secret’s Instagram, stop following people whose social networking photos make you feel less than, even for a second. Social networking is supposed to fun, not make you feel less sexy.
11. Touch Yourself
Yeah, we are going there. Those people who masturbate know exactly what they like when they are intimate with someone-else, which only increases their sex appeal.
12. Find A Good Tailor
When clothes are too boxy, too long, or generally ill fitting, it looks like you are trying to hide your body, which intrinsically translates to normally un sexy. No need to prance around in skin tight numbers, but a perfectly fitting dress with a nipped waist and a flattering hemline, a blazer that skims your body (and whose sleeves are not very long), or pair of slim perfectly fitting jeans that just hit your ankle will show your figure out a way that is sexy without having to be overt.
13. Invest In Chic Specs
Need reading glasses? No shame in that! But it is a known fact that most drugstore ready-mades are not the most youthful. Instead, seek out a modern pair at sites like Eye-Buy-Direct or Coastal. Obviously, it is worth getting an eye exam to make sure you do not require a stronger prescription, in that case, your chic specs options will be even larger thanks to hip affordable eyewear sites like Warby Parker and Steven Alan Optical..
14. Stop Plucking Your Eyebrows
Full brows are associated with youth, while super thin eyebrows can give your face a rough-appearance. As we get older, our eyebrows gradually thin, but quitting the tweezers and using makeup to fill them in can perform wonders & completely change your face for the better.
15. Undo Yourself A Bit
Unbutton one extra button on your blouse, smudge your eyeliner, spritz some salt spray in your hair sometimes appearing as if you just had a good time in bed can make you feel, and look extra sexy.
16. Slow Down
According to sex coach Sean Jameson, slowing down your movements and your speech by around 10 % will make you sexier now. For example, instead of rushing down the hallway, slow down and accentuate your movements. Another example: When you are making a point, do not wave your arms about erratically and quickly or ever feel like you have to get every word out from the mouth as fast as possible.
17. Initiate Sex More
This one is sexy in the literal sense: Even if you are not tremendously assertive, initiate sex more frequently with your partner. This is hot in and of itself, but it will also suggest to your partner than you really enjoy sex, which can be one of the biggest turn ons.
18. Use Touch
A killer way to get a person’s attention in a sexy way? Touch them very slightly on the arm or the back when you are saying hello or goodbye, when you agree with something they have said, or if they have said something funny.
19. Wear Heels
One of the quickest methods to feel sexier? Put on a pair of heels. Not only do they give you an empowering boost, although the right heels can make your clothes hang better, and especially if they are the color of your skin can have a leg lengthening effect.
20. Challenge Yourself
Whether it is in the office or even something as small as taking an advanced fitness class instead of a beginner one, succeeding will you provide you an air of confidence that could travel with you, making you much sexier.
21. Don’t Only wear Sweats to Bed
Obviously, comfortable clothes are awesome, and after a long day there is nothing better than chilling out in sweats. However, if you notice that your sex-life is either lackluster or non existent, swap out the sweats occasionally for something that makes you attractive. If you feel it, your partner will feel it, too.
22. Let Your Natural Scent Do the Work
It is not surprising that fragrance plays a big role in sex appeal, but despite what perfume companies would have you believe your best choice is not piling on a cloud of scented spray. Along with good hygiene habits, a subtle spritz of a musky scent is fine, but you needs to be having your natural pheromones shine.
23. Use Sexy People to Your Advantage, Rather Than Compare Yourself to Them
Instead of comparing yourself to other people who you think are sexy, take cues from them instead. For example, stop bemoaning the fact that you are not as tall, thin, or busty as a “Victoria’s Secret” model, and start using things you know make them sexy to your advantage. This might mean taking an extra Half an hour every morning to create the same bombshell waves in your hair, having a light spray tan, or rocking a push up bra on date night.
24. Try New Things
Whether it is a taking a dance class, trying a new restaurant in a new neighborhood, or booking a last-minute weekend getaway, trying new-things can absolutely help you feel sexier.
“Novelty is the greatest aphrodisiac,” Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., and founder of mypleasure.com told Redbook, and we couldn’t agree More: Living in the moment is exciting and sexy.
25. Nix Panty Lines
Speaking of underwear, panty lines are never, ever sexy. Everyone should invest in naked, seamless undergarments, or a excellent thong. Trust us on this one.
26. Be Kind
No matter what you look like, nothing will knock your innate sex appeal down faster than being rude to those people. You do not need to for lack of a better phrase kiss people’s ass and be phony, but treating everyone waitstaff, new people, friends, your elders with basic kindness, and respect is an attractive quality.
27. Get A Manicure and Pedicure
Much like getting your hair blown out, it is often the small indulgences which make us look and feel our best, so making time for on a pro manicure and pedicure once in awhile can do wonders. You can skip the polish of you want, too.
28. Get A Spray Tan
Similarly, having a healthy glow not only makes a lot of people feel sexier, but it also has a slimming effect.
29. Travel In A Pack
Anyone who is watched- “How I Met Your Mother” knows that Barney Stinson often references the “cheerleader effect,” when average looking women appear more attractive as a group. Turns out, he might be onto something: People do come off as more attractive when they are part of a clique than they do alone, according to a study published-in the journal Psychological Science. Read about it here!
30. Hone Your Talents
Lots (and lots) of rock stars, actors- actress, writers, and artists are not only traditionally attractive, but there’s a reason why they seem so damn sexy- talent. There is something primally attractive about someone with strong-skills, so take time to develop whatever it is you are gifted in.
It is not necessarily indicate spending a lot of money on material such things as an It-bag, but rather investing effort into the things you know for a fact make you look and feel sexy, whether it is something small like some bras & underwear, something transformative like keratin-treatments, or something brainy like signing up for a category.
32. Be Assertive
If you want something that you believe and you deserve, if you know you are correct, or if your date suggests going somewhere you do not want to, speak up. Being assertive is different than merely being pushy, and happens to be a sexy and admirable high-quality. Wishy-washy can get real old, real fast.
33. Play Up Your Best Features
When it comes to our looks, everybody has certain attributes we like better than others, so why not make them the first thing people see when they look at you? Got lips to rival Angelina Jolie? Play them up with gloss. Love your striking blue-eyes? Make sure they pop with mascara, liner, and strong-brows. Got great legs? Swap the boyfriend jeans for a pair of skinnies.
34. But Don’t Be Obsessed with Your Appearance
Put as much effort into your physical appearance as you want before you go out, but when you are around people, focus your-energy on making strong conversation instead of running to bathroom to brush your hair, apply your lipstick, or look at the mirror every 5 minutes. Overt vanity is not sexy.
35. Turn on the Lights
Sure, it can be sexy and natural to enjoy sex at nighttime, but try keeping the lights on occasionally. Not only will this feel more spontaneous, but it will allow both of you to actually see one another, which can be super hot. Not loving the harsh glow of your bedroom lamps? Light a bunch of candles, or buy a dimmer.
36. Never Wear Things That You Can’t Walk, Eat, Breathe, or Talk In
Obviously, you generally want to look your best, but wearing 6″ stilettos you can not walk in, or a dress that is so tight you can not easily move around it is not sexy at all. Instead, wear things you know look good on you but won’t hinder you from being cool, collected and calm.
37. Put Your Phone Away
This is a big one: The action of obsessively checking your phone every two minutes could be a bona fide deal breaker when it comes to sex appeal. There is nothing ruder than trying to have a conversation with a person who is constantly staring at their screens wouldn’t you be put off if someone were paying more attention to their iPhone than to you? Being present is sexy. Being preoccupied is not.
38. Ask the Right Questions
On a date (or anytime you are with another human, really) it is a good bet that asking questions will always ensure flowing conversation. However, if you start grilling someone on politics, religion,and their exes, or how much cash they pull in, you are going to look abrasive & nosy , rather than sexy & seductive.
39. Don’t Be A Snooze-Fest
This might sound harsh, because we all know you are not boring, but if people ask you questions, and you give one word answers, roll your eyes, or seem generally disinterested, you are not doing yourself any-favors. Even if you look like a supermodel, people are most turned on by stimulating conversation, eye contact, and personality.
40. Screw ALL OF THESE RULES
Loving yourself for who you are and being comfortable in your own skin is the sexiest thing in the world. Be yourself as well as your sexiness will shine-through.